A Letter to Ash because he turns 18 today & I’m getting all emo Cheekie Monkies

 

Expensive Ash,

We manufactured it! Satisfied 18th birthday, son! While it could feel like an eternity for you, it went by in a flash for me. I think a word has not been invented yet that even commences to describe the hurry of thoughts flooding in the direction of me appropriate now. Pleasure, pleasure, confusion, nolstagia, delight, panic, unfortunate (just a minimal!)… the listing goes on… all of these thoughts bundled into one particular.

It is insane how a great deal has changed because you were being born. Back then, Facebook was not open to the basic general public, and there was definitely no WhatsApp, Instagram and TikTok. The Sony PSP was just launched and the Palm Treo 650 smartphone was even now a issue. Heck, even YouTube was only introduced 1.5 months soon after you were being born!

So I guess that confirms it then – that you are not a toddler anymore.

Which is why currently is equally a amazing and miserable day for me.  I’ve observed myself wavering between immense pleasure and joy at looking at you all grown up, acquiring a flavor of performing lifetime, pursuing scientific tests that you enjoy, creating new buddies and reminiscences…and acquiring lost in a whirlpool of combined feelings, being emo for the reason that my newborn is all developed up.

Some times I do overlook that little child, the harmless youngster that you were. It appears as if a person day I achieved down to hug you and to keep your very small experienced… and suddenly, you are virtually at my eye stage. And in the spot of my treasured toddler boy stood a developed person.

It is a wonderful feeling, exciting and humbling even. But at the similar time, it is bittersweet for me.

If there have been a person moment that I can pinpoint just that I felt you are spreading your wings, it would be yesterday when you questioned if you could go for a day excursion to Johor Bahru with your close friends. At that moment, reality definitely smashed ideal into my experience. Travelling overseas and exposing you to the sights and sounds of other nations was what your mum and I like carrying out. But now, bit by bit but definitely, you will be encountering it with your pals much too.

Don’t get me completely wrong. I do not intend to retain you for myself.

In my eyes, you have grown into a considerate, respectful, responsible, and independent person. In simple fact, I was shocked at your imagined procedures and composing when you showed me your published assignment for a single of your modules a few weeks again. You have really developed up.

But letting go is tricky… and necessary at the exact same time.

And I am nonetheless studying and getting additional about you all the time.

No make any difference what comes about, you will generally be my little one, my little one, my son. So I want to get a moment to share some information with you on this distinctive working day of your life:

  • Be assured, but continue to be humble and variety.
  • Lifetime isn’t about obtaining oneself, it’s about developing on your own.
  • Be a voice not an echo.
  • The grass is only greener on the other side simply because it is fertilized with shit.
  • You have been born an unique.  Don’t die a duplicate.

And lastly, the most crucial 1 of all – Spouse and children is for good.

Of course, we can drive each and every other nuts at occasions but all of us will generally be right here for you. The door is normally open, each practically and metaphorically. There will often a location for you at our meal desk, in the bedroom, on the couch, on the rest room seat or just a listening ear ready for you at property.

So welcome to the Grownup Globe, Ash. I can guarantee you that it isn’t really quite every thing that it’s hyped up to be. But it isn’t really that bad as well, you know. Because it really is what you make it. And I know you are going to make it a attractive a person – very similar to how you experienced designed mine a stunning a single much too.

This is it then. You get a lot more handle how you enjoy this genuine-existence part-participating in activity of yours from now on. But recall that no matter wherever this adventure could lead you, I will normally be your dad, supporter, and good friend.

Let us chat all over again when you turn 21. 😁

Right until then, Pleased 18 once again, Ash.

Generally your #1 enthusiast,

Papa